Premature Ejaculation is a problem, and it needs to be treated as an issue that needs a solution rather than something to tip-toe around and hope no-one is being upset. Everyone is being upset. The woman is being upset because she is not getting a full loving sexual experience, the man is being upset because he feels ‘less of a man’ for not being able to satisfy his woman. It is a problem that if pushed into the background can cause resentment and feelings of inadequacy, and it doesn’t need to, because it’s easily treated and very often easily cured.
If the problem is psychological – and it often it – many men benefit from distraction during sex. The distraction can come in many forms. It could involve an actual physical distraction such as biting the tongue or inner cheek, or pinching yourself. The distraction needs to be quite sharp if physical to draw the concentration away from the sexual act itself. Psychological distraction involves taking your thought process away from the sexual act altogether and usually concentrating on something unpleasant. This can sometimes completely tip the problem on it’s head and lead to a man being unable to ejaculate and even becoming flaccid. Overall distraction is a less than satisfactory solution, because it means that both parties aren’t getting full enjoyment out of the encounter.
In a similar boat is desensitization. This was perfectly illustrated in a recent popular movie where a character with a known premature ejaculation problem was told to wear two condoms to desensitize him and make the encounter last longer. There are a range of sprays lotions and creams on the market to serve this purpose.
Many men feel they have greater control over their orgasm when they lie on their back. It seems that the penis is less sensitive in this position and there is less chance of premature ejaculation. This isn’t a cure for every man however, so it’s worth trying various different positions. Every person responds to different sexual positions in different ways, so it’s well worth taking the time to try varied positions and see if this brings about a resolution to the problem.
Another observation is that men can last longer after their first orgasm. Usually they need a bit of time to recharge the tanks, but masturbating one to two hours before intercourse can have a positive effect on the length of time before ejaculation in intercourse.
You can cure premature ejaculation, but you first need to confront it and accept it is a problem.
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